I judge and discriminate. I would rather say that I have learned to do so. I cannot simply waste time and emotions on all of those who come and make contact. It is too risky. Judging and discriminating is my defense to avoid wasted opportunity with those I want to be with.
With time, I have realized that it is just a waste to spend time with people you do not share common interests or visions. It is true that sometime a little diversity or others point of view adds life and generates new ideas. But too much of it just leads to confusion and chaos. As it is said, the people and environment affect us - structure defines conduct, it is important that we surround ourselves to likeminded people and find time to spend on our passion. This is why I judge and discriminate to filter out those who would distract me from following my dream.
There is some discussion on this topic, views are worth mentioning here
Q. I've never understood this. It is a nice phrase, ideally it would be pleasant if there was no need to judge and everyone could live in peace and harmony. But this is not reality. In reality there is conflict, and these conflicts must be resolved. How could this be done without handing out judgments? One must judge what is right and wrong, what is acceptable and unacceptable, just and unjust. Tell me, how can problems be solved in any other way?
Telling someone to not judge others makes no sense. It is true that we should not judge too quickly, irrationally, or in various other flawed ways. But to say we should not judge at all? How else do you intend to approach life? When one speaks of a supposed problem and a party responds that you should not judge, that is a poor defense. People only say such things because in the end they do not want to themselves to be judged. They do not want to acknowledge the flaws in their own ways.
If you have an opposing view please, let me know.
A. I think you're taking the statement too literally.
What the statement really is trying to say is to make sure you have taken into account all relevant issues and evidence, reach a calm logical conclusion and state your conclusion with a certain level of empathy.
Basically, make sure you tick all the boxes and be nice about it.
But of course there are cases (mass murderers) where no one would dare say "you shouldn't judge others".
With time, I have realized that it is just a waste to spend time with people you do not share common interests or visions. It is true that sometime a little diversity or others point of view adds life and generates new ideas. But too much of it just leads to confusion and chaos. As it is said, the people and environment affect us - structure defines conduct, it is important that we surround ourselves to likeminded people and find time to spend on our passion. This is why I judge and discriminate to filter out those who would distract me from following my dream.
There is some discussion on this topic, views are worth mentioning here
Q. I've never understood this. It is a nice phrase, ideally it would be pleasant if there was no need to judge and everyone could live in peace and harmony. But this is not reality. In reality there is conflict, and these conflicts must be resolved. How could this be done without handing out judgments? One must judge what is right and wrong, what is acceptable and unacceptable, just and unjust. Tell me, how can problems be solved in any other way?
Telling someone to not judge others makes no sense. It is true that we should not judge too quickly, irrationally, or in various other flawed ways. But to say we should not judge at all? How else do you intend to approach life? When one speaks of a supposed problem and a party responds that you should not judge, that is a poor defense. People only say such things because in the end they do not want to themselves to be judged. They do not want to acknowledge the flaws in their own ways.
If you have an opposing view please, let me know.
A. I think you're taking the statement too literally.
What the statement really is trying to say is to make sure you have taken into account all relevant issues and evidence, reach a calm logical conclusion and state your conclusion with a certain level of empathy.
Basically, make sure you tick all the boxes and be nice about it.
But of course there are cases (mass murderers) where no one would dare say "you shouldn't judge others".
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