Being bossy is not always bad

The HBR article confirms my perception (Why Bossy Is Better for Rookie Managers by Stephen J. Sauer). I always thought seeking opinion of the subordinate is better than telling them what to do. But it seems people are not always happy to be required to speak their opinion. I have noticed that subordinates, especially those older than me, choose to take instructions because they find me technically more knowledgable or better in certain aspects than because I seek their advice. In fact, taking advice sometimes can be misinterpreted as being inexperienced and not confident or knowledgable. I feel that there should be a balance when to take opinion and when to be assertive in what to do.